This is a story about sex and power, so I know you will read the entire blog! By the way of full disclosure, I am all for sex and power . . . only in the right context of marriage and never when those two words are used together. The recent stories of the former Mr. Universe and just-past Governor of California, Arnold Schwarzenegger, and previous IMF chief Dominique Strauss-Kahn’s sexual transgressions only remind us of the dangerous and messy cocktail blend of sex and power. We have seen these indiscretions in the past. Have you read some of the exploits of other American leaders?
Of course, sex and power is nothing new. Many of the Roman Caeser’s used their power to have sex with other Senator’s wives, commit incest with their sisters, and underage boys. The mixture of sex and power is not just reserved to political institutions, but is evident in religious circles, corporate boardrooms, and celebrity engagements. Truly consensual sex between adults can never really happen when there is a significant disparity of economic, social, or emotional power. One party, no matter the age, is just too dependent on the other!
Perhaps the 16th President of the United States, Abraham Lincoln, really understood the seductive trance of sex and power when he wrote, “Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.” Power breeds entitlement if not checked with humility, mercy, kindness, grace, and love. This is how you can keep your power (at whatever level) in control:
Our power is a sacred gift given to us so that we can use it for the benefit of others. Power was designed for leaders to make this world a better place. Leaders are value-added assets, not weapons of mass destruction. Servant leaders may love sex, but they will never mix it with power. See I told you that you would read the entire blog!